1 | It's Not Your Fault
Many of us revisit experiences of trauma, grief, or something
equally challenging as
the year draws to a close. And many of us loathe ourselves, at times, for not "getting over it", "moving on", or being "stronger". If you relate to these ideas today, I want you to know you're not alone and it's not your fault.
It's not your fault if your loved one does not yet know how to love you well.
It's not your fault if destructive patterns in your family have trapped you in the past.
It's not your fault that you didn't do better,
even though you did the best you could with what you had.
2 | Change Comes with Awareness
Awareness counts for a lot! Simply recognizing that you feel anxiety, for example, enables you to respond to the red flag your body is waving. And responding to the red flag is the first step toward feeling safe and building beneficial habits if you make it your intention to do it.
So, if you're beginning to notice emotions or struggles in this season that you generally don't see, pay attention to them. Sitting with whatever comes up, not ignoring it or chasing it away, will be difficult, AND it will spark growth.
3 | Just Breathe
You can always return to your breath to prepare for a challenge ahead or recover from a stressful experience. Use a breathing exercise or simply close your eyes and visualize your inhales and exhales — your lungs expanding, your belly or chest rising and falling, your muscles relaxing.
Be still and know you will bloom when the time is right.
Wishing you wellness,